so, it's getting serious?

If you're reading this post, you probably love your girlfriend/boyfriend to pieces, or your planning your dream proposal that is not quite real... yet.


From a professional in the wedding industry and a woman who was once engaged (now married), this can serve as the ultimate guide to a romantic, thoughtful proposal (with tips you might otherwise overlook).


While this guide may have some western Pennsylvania recommendations - the information is definitely applicable wherever you actually live.


(But if you don't live in Pennsylvania and are still looking for a photographer, I'm open to traveling!)

Couple in cowboy hats holding hands while walking down a gravel path lined with green trees.
Bride and groom sharing a kiss in a pine forest, bride wearing long white gown with veil.

 

Step 1.

You need to ask your partner,

"are you open to getting married?"

Do not pass go, do not collect $200 - you need to get the verbal commitment before you start planning ANYTHING.

The last thing you, your partner or your photographer want is a "uh-oh" cringe moment due to poor communication.


Step 2.

You got the "OK." Now what?

It's time to enter the research phase.

You know your partner, but when the pressure builds, you might forget some key details. I'm here to help jog your memory and give you some tools and recommendations to get this job done right. Below are some key details you should consider.

 

Newlyweds smiling and showing off wedding rings, bride holding colorful bouquet in green outdoor setting.

how to choose THE ring:


Your partner is going to wear this ring, ideally, forever. They need to love wearing it as much as they love you.


Are they a fan of gold or silver? Do they prefer lab-grown? Do they want a certain cut? What size do they need?


Honestly, this needs to be a conversation. Getting your partner involved in the buying process won't ruin the surprise (because they're already on board).

where to get the perfect ring:


Whenever you can, shopping independent or small businesses are the way to go. In western Pennsylvania, I know a few shops that become mutually invested in you.


I specifically recommend:

how to choose the perfect location:


This is where you need to dig your heels in and think: is my partner outgoing, the-world-is-my-stage? or are they more reserved and lowkey?


Do you have a special spot tied to a memory? Are you wanting to propose close to have or on vacation? Are they going to get suspicous if you tell them to put something nice on? Do you want to keep it casual or lean into romance?


If all else fails, think about documenting this moment:

what photographs well? (HINT: sunrise/sunset/shade).

The right photographer can help you with that!

where to propose (inspo):


Some places I specifically recommend:

finding the perfect photographer


There are a few factors when it comes to choosing the right photographer. For instance, I am a true-to-life (natural, bright colors) and journalistic (moments as they are) photographer. Other photographers might have more of a "moody-vintage style," or "light and airy," I recommend you talk about what style would be best for the wedding, and find someone that fits that vibe. Film is also making a comeback, and is worth exploring! If a professional photographer isn't in the budget, considering asking a close friend to take photos!


If you book with me, you'll recieve $300 off the wedding or elopement experience of your choice when the big day comes. Email me directly at picturesbylay@gmail.com or message me on Instagram @laylajosephphotography to start planning your proposal!

the tool kit:


  • Ask their close friends + family for opinions. They're probably dying to be involved!
  • Look for their Pinterest (This is the goldmine! You can even see how recent their "pins" were made.)
  • Ask you partner! Communication is hot.  
  • Ask your photographer (we know a thing or two).

questions worth considering:


  • Will they want friends/family to be there?
  • Are they going to want to have their nails done?
  • Do you need to ask for their family's blessing?
  • Do you have a plan to keep it a surprise?
  • A surprise celebration following a private proposal.
  • Do NOT propose during an established celebration (i.e. graduation, birthday party, wedding, etc.)

 

Step 3.

Do the damn thing!

Take a deep breath, get down on one knee, pay attention to your posture and pop the question. As long as you've got the verbal commitment, you're ready to rock. If you need help sorting out the details, I'm ready to be your wing woman.